While teaching bar-mitzvah lessons, for both secular and orthodox kids, I was asked various questions. Some questions were technical and some fundamental. In addition, there were a few questions I ask before committing to teach a bar-mitzvah boy.
So what's really important to know before starting bar-mitzvah lessons?
1) Hebrew date of birth: This determines the bar-mitzvah parsha (portion of the torah). It doesn't mean that the bar-mitzvah boy has to read that parsha; he can read the next one. But, he can't read the torah in a minyan (quorum of ten male prayers) or get an aliya (called up to the torah) before the Hebrew date. The Hebrew date can be determined from the English birth date using appropriate charts or website.
2) Date and place of first torah reading: The first reading can be on a Monday, Thursday or on Shabbat (Saturday). Keep in mind, if the bar-mitzvah will take place in an ultra orthodox synagogue, it may offend prayers if guests arrive by car on the Shabbat.
3) Make sure the teacher can complete the task: Almost every baal kore (one versed in reading the torah/teacher) has a slightly different tune or emphasis than others. Changing a baal kore in the middle may result with the new teacher shifting slightly from what the bar-mitzvah boy was already taught. This takes longer than teaching from scratch and is inconvenient for the bar mitzvah boy as well. In addition, if the school teaches the kids the general torah ‘reading tune’ without teaching the specific bar mitzvah parsha, it will be harder for the bar-mitzvah boy to get used to his teacher's tune pertaining to his parsha.
4) The time factor: Teaching a full Shabbat parsha (sedra) with the haftorah takes 9 to 12 months. To teach for a Monday or Thursday reading, which is by far shorter, takes two to four months; depending on the teacher, student and the parsha. It's important to have enough time to complete the task with the same teacher.
I hope this helps. If there are any questions you can comment below.
AJ Sterman
